A lot of my friends have recently been very upset by the way they look. I've seen their blog posts about how unhappy they are with their bodies, and I just wish there was something I could do to make them feel as beautiful as I think they are, you know?
And maybe it comes off a little hypocritical that I want to grab them and scream into their face, "you're beautiful, don't change a thing," when sometimes I have lows and feel like I'm the ugliest creature alive.
Of course, we're only human.
And luckily, as of lately, I've been feeling less and less bad about how I look.

Obviously I'm no expert on beauty, health, fitness, or whatever. But I know happiness like the back of my hand. So here are some of my tips to make sure you're the happiest you can be!

1. Look at yourself in the mirror and accept you for you.
Okay okay, so can be really hard for some people, but its a really important thing. Its hard to be happy and comfortable when you constantly are telling yourself to change. Hell, I used to think I was really fat and I hid myself behind large sweatshirts and pants, then I looked at myself one day and I was like "wait a minute...you aren't fat! Damn girl you sexy as hell!" (Okay maybe not to that extent, but you get the point.)
As a famous drag queen once said weekly on his reality TV show, "If you can't love yourself, how in the HELL are you gonna love somebody else? Can I get an amen up in here?"

Hint: RuPaul said it.

2. If you do want to change the way you look, set reasonable goals. Don't make yourself crazy.
Of course people want to change things about themselves, who doesn't? My roommate is skinny and fit, and I think she looks amazing, yet she still wants to change her body to have more curves. And girls I know with curves yearn to be thin. Unfortunately, many people wont be able to change the way they look that drastically (without surgery). So the best you can do is accept you for you, and make goals to look the best you can look.
I always wanted to be skinny, but I'm short and curvy, and its just not in my genetics to be tiny. Which is fine. I started losing weight, and now I think I look amazing, and even though I'm so far off from what I always initially wanted to look like, I'm happy.

3. Do not deprive yourself of anything.
You want to diet? Go for it. Who am I to stop you? Although personally, I think the word "diet" is nasty and sounds like a burden.
I think you should be able to eat whatever you want to, just as long as you do it in moderation. Its not that hard really. What is hard though, wanting something like cake and constantly telling yourself you can't have it. Seriously? Thats just cruel and unusual.

4. Take time out to do something you love.
As long as it isn't you know, super illegal. And I don't mean like drugs-illegal, I mean like, murder-spree-illegal. Cause thats not too cool.
But whatever you like, doesn't matter what it is. Like writing fan fiction smut? Write it! I do, its a blast. Like cosplay? Me too! How about doing economics homework? Because seriously, if you do, message me this class is kicking my butt.

5. Lastly, know someone cares about you.
Hell, I care about you and I might not even know you. Its always nice to know someone thinks highly of you.

And yeah, thats it.
Might not be much, but it was worth a shot.

Take care lovelies!
Loren ♥

Body Image Post

Alright I feel the need to post about body image now because I'm upset that I've gained 3 pounds since being home.
Hold it right there, before you go all motherly-instinct on my ass, oh Loren you are perfect the way you are, I would like to explain why this sucks the big one for me.

Okay so here it goes; I was never happy with my body in middle school and high school, I always was really convinced I was fat. And it took until this year that I realized 1) I'm not actually fat, and 2) I'm really okay with the way I look.
I mean, yeah, everyone wants to change things about them. If it were up to me, I'd rearrange my genetic code to be an inch or two taller, a bit thinner in my tummy and tits, and have a wider waist. But I'm never going to have that so I got over it and accepted this is the way I look, I mean, I'm never going to have ginger hair, or hazel eyes either, so whats the point in crying over my height?
Did comparing that even make sense? Hm.
Anyway, back to the original point. Even though I was finally happy about my body, I started birth control and gained about 7 pounds. Which sucked. And since then, I've been busting my ass to lose weight, and I was doing so damn well too!
But oh no. I can't have nice things and I gained 3 pounds.

I guess I'm being a bit melodramatic about this.
Maybe instead I should make a post about how I lost/am currently losing weight. Also maybe how I got over my self-hate.

Yeah.
I'm going to do that instead of whining.

Loren ♥

Otakon

Okay, so I am probably the worst blogger alive, but hello! I am not dead!

Hah get it? Because I'm alive and not dead. Oh that was a bad joke wasn't it.
Nevermind.

Alright so, I really want to go to Otakon. Which is basically just a convention for cosplayers and lovers of all things geeky...my life.
Also I'm looking for an excuse to break out my old Battle Royale cosplay, and this seems like the perfect opportunity!

My uniform!

Of course, I need to clean it up a bit, add the lace hem to the skirt, maybe get a different blouse and tie, but other than that, I've been dying for an excuse to wear it again!

But this brings us to point number two; can I go to Otakon? And why can't I win with my mother ever?
Sigh.
I love my mother dearly, and she loves me back, but sometimes we don't see eye to eye.

I went up to her today with my sister to pitch the idea of going to Otakon only to be answered with "NOPE NOPE NOPE LOREN U SUCK." And of course my darling little sister absconded out of there leaving me to be nope'd at. Thanks Tess.
Okay okay, she didn't actually tell me I sucked, but I can pretend because it adds humor to the story.

But then I decided, hey, lets see if we can make this less costly so maybe it'd be more likely to get a yes. So I figured out a way to avoid hotels, but instead of going to my mom with the idea, I made my sister tell her (I didn't want to risk more NOPE's being yelled at me).
Of course she gets a pat on the head and is told that she is smarter than me.
Thanks mom. It was my idea.
When I told her that, I got laughed at. I cannot win with this family.

Damnit this is why we can't have nice things.

Anyway, I'm not really bothered by it, actually I find it pretty funny.
Either way, I still want to go to Otakon. But if I can manage to go, it begs the question; what will I wear?
I have a Battle Royale cosplay down, but theres more than one day! Decisions, decisions.
The world may never know.

Loren ♥